Vietnamese dating rituals
They are typically gay, married (to a white woman), or ugly.
As it would be difficult to marry a homosexual man, and more unlikely to marry a married man, said female must resort to marrying a Vietnamese American male well below her typical standards.
Typically, the male solves this dilemma by being unfaithful throughout the life of the relationship. Has been acquiring his degree at SJSU for the past 8 years.
1: Example 1: Boyfriend is a drug dealer, in and out of jail, no college degree or job. Female is a college graduate and works for a Fortune 500 company. 2 usually involves dating a Chinese American or Caucasian American male.
The male must be very coercive very early on in his post-pubescent age in order to achieve such a goal. Example 2: Boyfriend works in a typical Silicon Valley corporation in an entry level position.
It refers back to the Vietnamese American females’ desire to emulate the relationship that she admired as a child: those of her parents.This situation may be characterized as a reverse gender Oedipus complex.A slightly related offshoot of this relationship is the “lifer”.The relationship may not be the most ideal, but both parties are benefited by being from the same background and more often than not, the same religion.Also, both families will be satisfied with the banquet menu at the wedding: Peking duck and shark fin soup to name a few dishes.